|Don't Say It!|
Sometimes it's easier to list things that you should try to avoid saying - so here goes:
Other unhelpful comments include:
- Look on the bright side
- Just get off the sofa and go and do some exercise
- You don't look depressed
- It's a lovely day outside
- Cheer up
- You're just looking for attention
- Have you taken your tablets today?
Instead, try being thoughtful and empathetic. Sometimes just being there is probably the most important thing that you can do - because having depression can feel very lonely. You may have heard it all before - but listening is very important too. Try to be encouraging if the depressed person is thinking of seeking support via their GP or is about to try counselling or medication etc. Helping them to do practical things for them like cooking a meal can be good - but try not to do too much for them as this can take away their sense of self reliance. Asking if they would like to go for a walk or a coffee can be good. Bringing them useful books can be thoughtful - but try not to force them to read them. (Just leave them in the bag for later.) Talking about people who have been through the same thing they are going through can be good. Unconditional love goes a long way too.